Often people do not intervene if another person is in need of help because they may assume the situation is not a problem, or feel it is none of their business. They may assume that someone else will do something, or believe that other people
were not bothered by the problem. In some cases, a person might feel their personal safety would be at risk if they were to intervene. When people do intervene in a situation, they often say that it was the right thing to do, and that
they would want someone to intervene if the roles were reversed.
Taking the time to safely intervene can make a significant difference in someone’s life. It also helps send a powerful message to the perpetrator and society about what social norms are acceptable and unacceptable.
The goal is to safely stop bad behavior before it crosses the line.
Suggestions of ways to intervene
- Indirectly by distracting the aggressor
- Speak to the aggressor directly
- Seek others to engage
- Suddenly turn on the lights at a party
- Turn off the music
- Text your friend to check in and see if they’re ok with the situation
- Have a conversation beforehand, agreeing upon secret “cues” that will let your friend know that it’s time to go
- Use humor. In some situations humor, can be a really useful tool to defuse a situation because it can be perceived by the aggressor as less threatening than direct confrontation
- Call 911
Take personal safety into consideration when intervening.
YouTube video on what it means to be an engaged bystander
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1ycYPmzisfk